Mastering Internal Confidence

Contrary to my previous post, internal confidence is not easily faked. You may be able to fool others, but it’s hard to fool yourself in this area. As I said before, confidence radiates from the inside out. Once you’ve mastered internal self-confidence, the external part will come out naturally, and you won’t have to fake it anymore.

I have been searching for advice on how to build my own self-confidence and have come across some great suggestions:

Create a personal commercial

This is a mantra or personal pep talk highlighting your strengths and goals, which you recite to yourself in the mirror daily. It might go something like this:

“I am intelligent, passionate person with a wealth of qualities to be shared and appreciated. Others want to hear what I have to say because I add value to and enrich their lives in meaningful ways. There is no limit to what I can accomplish.” Don’t wait! This offer is only available for a limited time…just kidding.

Be grateful

List everything you have to be grateful for. This includes your talents, your achievements, and your potential. When you see how many things you have to be grateful for, you have a better understanding of your true value and an even stronger reason to be confident in yourself.

Get over fear of failure

You need to realize that failure or being wrong won’t kill you. Don’t be afraid of the things you think you can’t do. The greatest successes often come with the highest risks. And hey, if you are wrong, so what! Learn from it and move on.

Lighten up

This is one that I am guilty of. I tend to take my work and myself too seriously, and in turn, I overwhelm myself unnecessarily. I mistake my ego for confidence, which makes it difficult to face the risk of failure or accept constructive criticism. By relaxing, it becomes easier to take action and move forward more confidently.

Get to know yourself

How well to you really know yourself? Do you know what you want in life? What’s holding you back? Ambiguity makes it difficult to charge forward toward your dreams. If you take the time to think about these things, there is less uncertainty which fosters confidence.

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.”

–Henry David Thoreau

To a happy, healthy, productive life!

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3 responses to “Mastering Internal Confidence

  1. I like the idea of a personal pep talk done daily. Most people fail because they don’t believe they can succeed.

  2. Hi Michelle, Dr Bret shared your blog with me. You are doing awesome work here! Really glad I stopped by.

    Love this idea of creating a “personal commercial”.

    I also think we can actively build our self confidence by doing things that scare us even just a bit consistently. There is a moment when we step through our fear that the fear transforms into exhileration. Every time we experience this we imprint more evidence in our minds that we can count on ourselves.

    • Susan,
      You are very right about taking consistent baby steps towards stronger self-confidence. If you can’t count on yourself, who can you count on?
      Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts!


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